Creative Lies We Tell Ourselves

There's a reason "analytical" begins with the four letters it does

I received my first electric guitar as a gift for my 17th birthday. That's more years than I care to consider before my birthday this

The Process of Gender vs. the Result of Gender Identity

Pain can help you grow - and at times, more than just growing angry

A friend of mine mentioned his struggle to understand the distinction among sex, gender, gender identity, and sexuality. My friend isn't a fool - he

Scientific Facts as Social Constructs

What we believe is real depends in part upon our sense of safety in society

When discussing sex or gender in modern discourse - particularly in internet forums in which anonymity is guaranteed - the phrase "social construct" makes frequent

Transgender and Not in Touch with My Feelings

I Still Belong to the Episcopal “No Touch” Massage Club

I am a transgender woman. I have no doubts, but sometimes I wonder if I will ever fit in? So many of my sisters are

Society Must Operate as an Immune System

I hope my community grows exponentially - like a virus

My son fell sick last December. I tried my best not to succumb, and although I felt I put up the good fight, I also

I Am Not Anti-Science

How science is used against the LGBTQ community

I am a scientist. I began my undergraduate education with the intent of becoming a geneticist. My interests changed, and I switched from biology to

I'm a Gender Autonomist

The term 'gender activist' is used to point at trans people living with dignity and solidarity, capable of saying 'no thank you' and daring to shrug at and disagree with someone who doesn't like them just because they're trans. 'Activist' is used as an insult for someone who believes in autonomy.

Bodily autonomy is important to everyone, though some don't feel its importance or can't explain why it's important until it's taken away or they realize

The Sting of Being Clocked

or, Being late to the gender dysphoria party

I ate dinner recently with a psychologist friend of mine - whom I will call Fred. Although Fred was my therapist until he retired in

Today I Am No Longer Disfigured

No angry pigs were harmed in the writing of this article

Last week, I discussed a sense of disfigurement and its value as a typical human experience in maintaining social expectations within the environment. An episode

Social Expectations Leave Us Disfigured

What Rod Serling teaches about gender dysphoria

Imagine living every day with a disfigurement. Not living with a feature you would like to change - living with a feature so abhorrent, an

Identity in a Grain of Sand

My resolution was broken before I even made it

At the time of writing, it is the second day of 2024. Pessimistic statistics indicate as many as one out of twenty New Year's resolutions

Geena Rocero's TED Talk Reveal

'Our spirits will always expand to fill whatever space we are given,' she says. She found her own face in the mirror, her own presence, emerging from nothingness.

In her memoir Horse Barbie, published earlier this year, model Geena Rocero tells us: “We are all of us works in progress, every draft of

Self-Love Is Easier than I Thought

Sometimes we must battle our own beliefs to accept ourselves

My good friend Morgan Whitten responded to a photograph I posted to social media recently. She called me beautiful, and I had to stifle the

Shaneel Lal's Fight Against Conversion Therapy

In 2022, powered by young activist Shaneel Lal, Aotearoa New Zealand banned conversion therapy. 'Stop congratulating me for being brave,' Lal says. Instead, 'annihilate the systems that force me to be brave.'

Recognizing you've always been 'One of Them'

Shaneel Lal, a 23-year-old activist, founded the Conversion Therapy Action Group which pushed to ban conversion therapy in

I Am the Ride

Inspired by Chris Smither's Song and with appreciation to Jen, a dear friend and guiding light for us all.

In my childhood I was the problem. I believed I was the bully, although I was always responding to the incessant teasing of others which

To Bake the Pie of Identity

And wear it, if possible

I was 13 years old when my father took me to a movie theatre to watch "Risky Business." I was certainly too young to understand

They Are Poking Mama Cat!

Beware! Fools are treading into my territory!

I recently read a fairly old article that struck a nerve, and something clicked. A switch moved and I am suddenly in full berserker protective

Transgender Oasis

A pool of friendly in a desert of suspicion

Hello Catty Kittens*, and of course everyone else!

I find myself lately wanting to share more positive messages since so much around us feels like

Driving Away the Thought of Self-Harm

Caution: dangerous curves ahead

Not long ago, my mental health deteriorated to the point I believed suicide was the only resolution. It was the worst I had felt since

"I Am Not a Fish" and Other Christian Inconsistencies

Transubstantiation is only the beginning

When describing the distinction between sex and gender, I use an example of a species of fish from the Great Barrier Reef. This species of