What Would My Father Think of His Transgender Daughter?
All the things the dead cannot say directly
I turned 53 years old recently. The event was met with few accolades — at least from me. I try my best not to be celebrated
The Ineluctable Wisdom of Cat Posters
Making Self-Care Normal Since…well, never…but maybe I should I start!
Although I came to adulthood in the 1980s, I grew up as a child in the 1970s, with all its attendant oddities and idiosyncrasies. As
The Myth of Fragility
Relying too much on physical strength reveals metaphysical fragility
Boxing — as a sport — consistently fails to capture my attention. I don’t want to watch people get punched in the face; I don’t
The Limbo of Gender Identity
In between Patriarchs and Infants lie geeks who transition gender
There are two realizations I made this week. First, I am not a woman. Second, I am not a father, and — by extension — not a
The Critical Role of Gender in Evolution
The next thousand years depends on you. Don’t mess this up.
Humans ascribe a level of agency to our behavior misaligned to our role on Earth. The truth is Nature is unconcerned with our grandiose thoughts
Evolution of the Identity
When Darwin was wrong, he was pretty dang wrong.
When I published “How Fuzzy is Sex?” earlier this week, it hadn’t occurred to me I was opening a three-part series. This is the
How Fuzzy Is Sex?
The answer has to do with more than the last time you shaved your legs.
Last week, I reviewed several conversations I had in the past four months. Although reviewing past work helps me plan future work, its greater value
The Invisible Transfemme
At least I’m not running around nude, amirite?
In the movie “The Invisible Man,” Claude Rains plays chemist Dr. Jack Griffin, who must wear full body wrap — hat, goggles, bandages, gloves, coat, boots
Sound Off: Using My Transgender Voice
What could be the nature of your primary difficulty, you silly goose?
In the movie “Full Metal Jacket,” Gunnery Sergeant Hartman unleashes a fusillade of profanity, metaphor, insult, and nicknames upon a squad of Marine recruits with
From Wrecked-Up Friend to Transgender Gem
Something about slicing blocks with a pink lightsaber makes me feel like a true transgender woman.
When the Meta Quest 2 virtual reality headset was released to market in 2020, I was sorely tempted to buy one. Recently, two very good
Gender Transition: You Are Who You Have Always Been
“Who could ever love a beast so hideous and ugly?” Princess Fiona, “Shrek”
In the movie “Shrek,” Princess Fiona is cursed to change from human to ogre form when the sun sets. She lives in constant fear that
Finding My Name: From Childhood Pain to Transgender Pride
“May I have your name?” asked the Fey Prince. “Yeah, sure — I’m not using it,” answered Amethysta v1.0.
In myths of the Fae — also known as Sidhe, Tylwyth Teg, or Ælfe — faeries commonly take advantage of humans by twisting a turn of phrase
Your Identity Is Non-negotiable
Purge your life of people who choose not to support you in being who you are.
I came out as a transgender woman in August, 2022 — six weeks after I had begun gender-affirming hormone therapy. It took several days to complete
Pain as Self-Care: Why Transgender is Not a Fetish
“I thought I’d gone to the limits. I hadn’t. The Cenobites gave me an experience beyond limits. Pain and pleasure, indivisible.” — Frank the Monster, “Hellraiser”
A recent conversation spurred me to consider my childhood and how it informed my current transgender experience. Like many transgender women, I was diagnosed with
Transgender? Get Ready to Blow Up Your Life!
When I was a child, my friend Jason and I dreamed up a simple method to accomplish the impossible.
Being children, Jason and I expected the laws of physics to be defined by scientists, not revealed by observing Nature. This convenient loophole made ignorance
Labels — the Ultimate Weapon Against Queerness
I remember where I was when I learned the word “ratify.”
It was Summer. The house where I grew up needed the sewer rooted out, and my father did it himself. I remember standing by the
Queer or Not, Identity is Life
Who you are and how you express your identity is vital — literally your tie to health and life.
In a previous article, I discussed the Ayurvedic definition of health as “being established in oneself.” Health is not focused simply on the body. Health
Overcoming my Hidden Transphobia
I admit, as a transgender woman, I still struggle with transphobia.
This statement may sound ridiculous — how could I be afraid of myself, especially when so much of my writing has been a celebration of the
Ayurveda and the Transgender Soul
Being true to your deepest identity is good for your health.
As members of the LGBTQ community, we understand this tenet to the core, especially when we face discrimination. A friend of mine once commented that
Science vs. The LGBTQ Community
Do you remember household cold fusion devices that promised clean, unlimited power virtually for free?
What about education targeted to our objectively-defined abilities that would unlock our potential as human beings? (WARNING: unlocking your potential as a human being is